In the last several months, I’ve made a conscious effort to put myself out there to broaden my peripheral view on life. I not only feel a boost in my self-esteem, but I also feel that I’m socially more comfortable in my own skin than ever before. I’ve attended a number of social functions where I knew very few to know one at all. I’ve gone to business seminars and conferences that I normally would have turned down the moment I heard they were taking place, and I went on a number of dates just for the hell of it. A dear friend once told me that going on dates is like going for a series of job interviews: you gain practice and experience hoping someday for that perfect match. As it stands right now, I remain unemployed. Continue reading Why Dating is so Difficult in Your 40’s
My delightful millennial coworker Stella often teases me at work about my Gen X philosophies and idiosyncrasies. When I was in my 20’s I never would have imagined going to bed at 8pm and that’s one of the many things about me that she banters about. When I explained to her that on my dating profile, I included that I like to have meaningful conversations about life, she exploded in laughter pointing out that it’s far too serious and a turn-off to say that. After her brief 101 on dating, I stood back and said yikes…she’s right! Thus, I elected to save the meaningful conversations about life for a blog or with my close friends only. Continue reading Meaningful Conversations about Life
For the longest time, I couldn’t figure out my place as an Asian single dad in his 40’s living in the suburbs. After some major life transitions, sparked by my realization about my poor mental health, I was determined to change my unhealthy belief system Continue reading Redefining the Man-Cave: My Mental Health Discovery.
A healthy perspective reminds us of the great things that we have around us. It also contrasts against the negative things going on in our lives. It helps us to remain positive when things get discouraging. Continue reading Why it’s Important to Have a Healthy Perspective.
It felt like forever since the last time Alex, Lynnessa, Randy, Rene and I got together. I honestly can’t remember the last time we did. They’re my longtime friends since my University days which means that was over 20 years ago – when we were all skinnier, with a full head of hair and without any gray that we all now try to claim is “fashionable”. In fact, I’ve known Rene since I was in Grade 8 which makes him my longest tenured friend I have. Continue reading “Self-Discovery and the People who Make us Smile”
The other day at the office, Stella asked if I wanted to go out for lunch at the nearby sushi restaurant. We managed to find a great little spot, referred to by my other colleague, Cat. For under $10, you get a bento box (comprising of high quality sushi, sushi and more sushi, a garden salad and teriyaki chicken) along with a miso soup on the side. And did I mention that the sushi chef sometimes throws in a freebie of one his own creations?
Yes, that’s right. All this for under $10…mmm.
Ok, in case you’re wondering, no I’m not writing to promote this place. You can follow my Yelp account if you’re interested to find out. Continue reading “Mastering Boundaries”
With each passing significant experience in my life, I’m able to self-reflect with personal growth. There’s been so many incredible positives to take away from this experience. Yet another chapter in my life, albeit short, has completed and new ones await. Continue reading Traversing Souls
We are constantly learning new things whether or not we are consciously aware of it. It’s all part of personal growth and development that makes each of us unique. Now in my forties, I’ve realized how much my perspective on life has changed over the years. Once feeling invincible, I now feel a sense of humility. Continue reading On Personal Growth and Lifelong Learnings