Why So Unhappy?

Why So Unhappy?

What happens when you feel stuck? I used to have every excuse in the book for my unhappiness. It was always someone else's fault, or how shitty my upbringing was. I wasn't loved enough, or no one gave me what I needed. My negative attitude led me to a path of depression, anxiety and anger, never able to sustain a healthy relationship with anyone because I would constantly look externally for validation. So that's how I lived my life for decades. I was holding everyone else accountable for my misfortunes, when the answers all came from within. 

When’s the Last Time You Went for a Mental Health Checkup?

When’s the Last Time You Went for a Mental Health Checkup?

I've been feeling a little depressed these days and thought I'd utilize some tools I've learned over the years to address it. I realized we can all get affected mentally by changes that happen in our lives. No one is immune to feeling depressed, lonely, anxious or upset, and it's important to recognize even the slightest of these feelings, and address them accordingly.

Why Dating is so Difficult in Your 40’s

Why Dating is so Difficult in Your 40’s

In the last several months, I've made a conscious effort to put myself out there to broaden my peripheral view on life. I not only feel a boost in my self-esteem, but I also feel that I'm socially more comfortable in my own skin than ever before. I've attended a number of social functions where I knew very few to know one at all. I've gone to business seminars and conferences that I normally would have turned down the moment I heard they were taking place, and I went on a number of dates just for the hell of it. A dear friend once told me that going on dates is like going for a series of job interviews: you gain practice and experience hoping someday for that perfect match. As it stands right now, I remain unemployed.

Meaningful Conversations about Life

Meaningful Conversations about Life

My delightful millennial coworker Stella often teases me at work about my Gen X philosophies and idiosyncrasies. When I was in my 20's I never would have imagined going to bed at 8pm and that's one of the many things about me that she banters about. When I explained to her that on my dating profile, I included that I like to have meaningful conversations about life, she exploded in laughter pointing out that it's far too serious and a turn-off to say that. After her brief 101 on dating, I stood back and said yikes...she's right! Thus, I elected to save the meaningful conversations about life for a blog or with my close friends only.

Redefining the Man-Cave: My Mental Health Discovery.

Redefining the Man-Cave: My Mental Health Discovery.

For the longest time, I couldn't figure out my place as an Asian single dad in his 40's living in the suburbs. After some major life transitions, sparked by my realization about my poor mental health, I was determined to change my unhealthy belief system

Self-Discovery and the People who Make us Smile

Self-Discovery and the People who Make us Smile

Without an ounce of doubt, self-discovery has changed me and the way I think. I thirst for it now because it liberates me from who I was before. My perspective on life has shifted and this gift I was given is an opportunity for personal growth and a healthier wellbeing. Collectively this improves my mental health.

Mastering Boundaries

Mastering Boundaries

How do you create a healthy set of boundaries? What do boundaries mean to you? Are you a doormat and can't say "No"? Do you often cross other people's boundaries?

Traversing Souls

Traversing Souls

With each passing significant experience in my life, I'm able to self-reflect with personal growth. There's been so many incredible positives to take away from this experience. Yet another chapter in my life, albeit short, has completed and new ones await.