Improving Mental Health through Mental Fitness

It’s plastered everywhere now. Thanks to the power of social media and improving tolerance, you’d have to be living underneath a rock to not know that having good mental health is equally as important (if not more) than having good physical health. The two are synonymous when we talk about having a well balanced lifestyle. Continue reading Improving Mental Health through Mental Fitness

Why Dating is so Difficult in Your 40’s

In the last several months, I’ve made a conscious effort to put myself out there to broaden my peripheral view on life. I not only feel a boost in my self-esteem, but I also feel that I’m socially more comfortable in my own skin than ever before. I’ve attended a number of social functions where I knew very few to know one at all. I’ve gone to business seminars and conferences that I normally would have turned down the moment I heard they were taking place, and I went on a number of dates just for the hell of it. A dear friend once told me that going on dates is like going for a series of job interviews: you gain practice and experience hoping someday for that perfect match. As it stands right now, I remain unemployed. Continue reading Why Dating is so Difficult in Your 40’s

Forgiving Your Past

Is it even possible? How does one regain their self-esteem lost from childhood abuse and trauma?

What I’ve learned over the years is that low self-esteem in social situations can be common for childhood abuse and trauma survivors.

I feel judged and begin analyzing what others might be thinking of me. I feel a discomfort in my breathing and suddenly my mind no longer pays attention to the social interactions going on, but rather on what my exit strategy is going to be. Perhaps it’s a mild case of agoraphobia, the fear of feeling unsafe and trapped. Or maybe it’s a trigger from my past. Continue reading Forgiving Your Past

Why I’m Speaking about my Mental Health

Aren’t you afraid of what people might think of you?

Every now and then I get asked that question since I published Living with the Dragon, launched my online courses on mental health management and publicly opened up about my struggles in the past with depression, anxiety and anger.

The initial fear of going public has long since passed. I overcame that fear of judgement because I also knew that very same fear is preventing me from making a significant difference to the mental health community, and it is the very same fear that kept my shame alive after all the years. And as everyone knows, when there’s shame, we get stuck at a place of resentment, bitterness and external blaming. Continue reading Why I’m Speaking about my Mental Health

Please stop telling me that I have a choice

Choices are made based on the thoughts and feelings we have. These thoughts can sometimes be created by past woes, experiences and triggers. Tuning them out isn’t as simple as saying you have a choice. People who experienced childhood abuse and trauma need to regain a sense of themselves before they can learn to make healthier choices consistently. Continue reading Please stop telling me that I have a choice

Let’s Talk about Your Mental Health

When people live with the pain of depression, anxiety and anger, it’s even more critical to become more self-aware of the ups and downs of the powerful emotions and re-channel them through expressive words. This is especially true for men who struggle at home communicating their wounds to their wives and kids. Men who are unable to recognize the reasons behind their struggles, need to take a deeper dive and explore what could be triggering some of their unwanted feelings. And for men who don’t, may fall into a deep abyss of their depression and anxiety. If improperly managed, it can lead to anger and in many cases emotional, verbal and physical abuse. Continue reading Let’s Talk about Your Mental Health

Don’t Cry Over Spilt Milk Because Today is World Mental Health Day!

Today is World Mental Health Day and I had the opportunity to reflect on some of the things I take for granted. Something miraculous happened to me along the way when I had a relieving conversation with my friend Joon who lives with schizophrenia. This post is dedicated to her and all the courageous and wonderful people in the World who live with a mental illness.
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My Journey with Depression

Depression isn’t something that can be summed up easily in one sentence. Just ask anyone who’s experienced depression, it’s so much more than not having energy to do things. Depression comes and goes and even behind my biggest smiles, I still sometimes feel depressed.

Mental Illness Awareness Week is from October 1-7, 2018. Support your community’s mental health organizations by raising awareness. Feel free to share about a mental health group in your community below in the comments! Continue reading My Journey with Depression

Why Watching YouTube Videos Don’t Work for Your Mental Health, but THIS Will.

But then, something struck me after I digested this inspiring quote about trauma survivors. It also made me think back to all the videos I’ve watched on personal development and mental health. All of them carry a voice of empathy. They understand the challenges and pain for people who struggle with their mental health and personal development.
But something was missing I felt in almost all the messages…what was missing? Continue reading Why Watching YouTube Videos Don’t Work for Your Mental Health, but THIS Will.

A Man’s Journey from being Lost Alone to becoming Lost Together with the World

So why do we keep listening to all the personal development experts over and over again if they’re saying the same thing? For one, their delivery is uniquely different from one and other. Gary Vee for instance is much more brash and direct compared to say Mr Tolle. And that’s what captivates us. The different melodies with similar words is music to our ears. Continue reading A Man’s Journey from being Lost Alone to becoming Lost Together with the World