Remember when we used to describe a person who was quiet and didn’t show much emotion as the strong, silent type? I don’t often hear that phrase anymore to describe a someone, and I’m glad. I mean, how strong is a person who is silent, especially when it comes to their mental health? Isn’t that an oxymoron? For generations, it was seen as a positive trait, to be the strong, silent type. You’re cool, collected and can withstand internalized pain. Movies stars portrayed this imagery very well, often looking cool and sexy in the movies if they were stoic. Continue reading What Happened When I Was The Strong, Silent Type
Basketball has given my son an outlet for his depression and anxiety. It’s given him a focal point to practice something he truly enjoys and provides him with entertainment that pulls him away from his negative thought patterns. I’ll always love the sport because of what it has given my son. Continue reading How Basketball Rescued My Son from Depression
If anyone is struggling in their relationships, family or work life, assess your history growing up and ask yourself how the environment may have shaped your present belief system. Did you grow up with a lot family violence, arguments and shaming? Were you violated as a child and put down often? Were there major transitions such as divorce of your parents, moving to a different region or the sudden loss of a loved one? Dig deep and learn more about how childhood events such as trauma and abuse impacted you. Continue reading 30 minutes of Parenting with PTSD
We get thoughts that pop up in our head based on a memory. If your childhood was plagued by bad experiences of abuse, trauma, arguments and family violence, your brain became programmed to those negative experiences. The repetition and patterns of negative behaviors in a negative environment hard wired your brain to have recurring thoughts even as you get older. And since you get thousands of thoughts every day based on your experiences, you’ll sometimes get these negative memories creep into your headspace, reminding you of those bad times. These reminders can make way for unhealthy behaviors. This is partly the reason behind depression and anxiety because we create these unhealthy thoughts from our past which creates the depression, and we respond with fear and anxiety. Continue reading What Are You Thinking About? Understanding how your thoughts can lead to depression.
Those who experienced childhood abuse will go through a different journey than those who didn’t. It can be sometimes difficult to explain this journey to someone who’s never experienced it before. At the end of the day, it’s your journey and your life to own. And finding peace with your journey opens doors to so many great things that you didn’t even realize before. Continue reading Undoing the Effects of Childhood Abuse
Choices are made based on the thoughts and feelings we have. These thoughts can sometimes be created by past woes, experiences and triggers. Tuning them out isn’t as simple as saying you have a choice. People who experienced childhood abuse and trauma need to regain a sense of themselves before they can learn to make healthier choices consistently. Continue reading Please stop telling me that I have a choice
When people live with the pain of depression, anxiety and anger, it’s even more critical to become more self-aware of the ups and downs of the powerful emotions and re-channel them through expressive words. This is especially true for men who struggle at home communicating their wounds to their wives and kids. Men who are unable to recognize the reasons behind their struggles, need to take a deeper dive and explore what could be triggering some of their unwanted feelings. And for men who don’t, may fall into a deep abyss of their depression and anxiety. If improperly managed, it can lead to anger and in many cases emotional, verbal and physical abuse. Continue reading Let’s Talk about Your Mental Health
Healing takes time. It takes patience and then right when you think things are on track, it takes even more patience. Depression, anxiety and anger have been banes in my life. When I failed to raise self-awareness to my anxiety and depression, my anger popped like a shaken can of soda. Continue reading Healing Angry Wounds
But then, something struck me after I digested this inspiring quote about trauma survivors. It also made me think back to all the videos I’ve watched on personal development and mental health. All of them carry a voice of empathy. They understand the challenges and pain for people who struggle with their mental health and personal development.
But something was missing I felt in almost all the messages…what was missing? Continue reading Why Watching YouTube Videos Don’t Work for Your Mental Health, but THIS Will.
So why do we keep listening to all the personal development experts over and over again if they’re saying the same thing? For one, their delivery is uniquely different from one and other. Gary Vee for instance is much more brash and direct compared to say Mr Tolle. And that’s what captivates us. The different melodies with similar words is music to our ears. Continue reading A Man’s Journey from being Lost Alone to becoming Lost Together with the World