Category Archives: MENTAL HEALTH

Self-sabotaging the Perfect Life and 2 Questions to Ask Yourself.

In the real world, my life was far from being perfect. Growing up in a home rife with family violence, any moments of joy was short-lived and followed up with beatings by my dad, shaming from my older siblings, bullying at school or disppapproval from my mom. Thus, perhaps watching the feel-good 30 minute sitcoms with the happy endings was my form of escape from the painful reminder that my days would often end in tears, pain and loneliness. The paradox was that I wanted my parents to see me as the creative, sensitive and intelligent little boy, but I also wanted to be invisible from the hurt, abuse and neglect.

Me and My Shadow (Shadow Work)

Psychiatrist Carl Jung coined the terms shadow work, which in lay person’s term is accepting all traits of oneself. There’s no good, nor bad parts to us, just One. When we are whole, we love and accept what many would see as negative traits. For most of us who experienced a form of childhood trauma, fear, insecurity and doubt, are undoubtedly going to exist in our lives. I’ve learned that the hard way of struggling to accept my past.

Living with Fear, Resentment and CPTSD

Most who’ve suffered from Childhood PTSD know exactly what I’m about to share. Every day can feel like a struggle to challenge negative thought patterns, self-sabotaging behaviours and complaining. I meditate, practice mindfulness, and use a variety of different techniques to soothe the running mind, yet sometimes the wave of negative thought patterns becomes too overwhelming to even slam on the brakes. It’s like trying slow down a runaway streetcar all by yourself – it’s so powerful, you have no choice but to step away and let it take over. Even with the awareness of the onset, sometimes isn’t enough to step away from it.

Relationships and Healing Old Wounds (aka Taking Care of My Shit!)

Now that the honeymoon stage is over in our relationship, it’s time to experience the power struggle stage. In my latest blog on dating and relationships, I take a deep dive into how our past trauma can impact the state of the relationship. Why isn’t she texting me back? I’m feeling anxious about us. I feeling resentful over nothing. These are the questions and scenarios I delve into on Healing Past Wounds (also known as, Taking care of my shit!)