Shall I Start a Men’s Group?

Shall I Start a Men’s Group?

I've never been a "handyman" and it still puzzles me especially in this day and age, we still call it a handy "man". Let's just say, I'm not very good when it comes to fixing or building things at home. When it comes to being a Man, what's more important to me has been listening, sharing thoughts, being compassionate, being encouraging, sharing my feelings and challenging others to think deeply for themselves. That's been more of my scene ever since I could remember as a kid, but I've only finally come to embrace in the last 5 years. 

Anxious Attachment in Relationships

Anxious Attachment in Relationships

I recently did some reading about different forms of attachment styles in relationships. I'm fascinated to learn more about myself as part of my ongoing personal development journey, and determined to provide the healthiest version of myself to Annie, my son and the people I care most about. Basically, what I've learned is that there are 2 attachment styles: Secure and Insecure. I dug deeper to determine what my attachment style has been in past relationships, determined not to repeat the same pattern in my current relationship with Annie. Based on a checklist of the behaviors, I fell into the Anxious Attachment Style.

Reclaiming the Man that Resides Within

Reclaiming the Man that Resides Within

Today I was fortunate enough to be on Facebook Live with the Self Achievement Network hosted by Domenic Certa to talk about my book Living with the Cat, the 9 Biggest Reasons Why Your Life Sucks. We also had the opportunity to talk about hurdles men face when it comes to relationships with themselves and how they can redefine what true manhood is about.

Why So Unhappy?

Why So Unhappy?

What happens when you feel stuck? I used to have every excuse in the book for my unhappiness. It was always someone else's fault, or how shitty my upbringing was. I wasn't loved enough, or no one gave me what I needed. My negative attitude led me to a path of depression, anxiety and anger, never able to sustain a healthy relationship with anyone because I would constantly look externally for validation. So that's how I lived my life for decades. I was holding everyone else accountable for my misfortunes, when the answers all came from within. 

Anxiety over the Future

Anxiety over the Future

I'm starting to sweat.
I can feel a tiny droplet - a moist, salty bead trickling down from my forehead, clinging onto the very tip of my nose, ready to fall. Anytime now. Truth is, I'm sort of nervous. I've not been one to take many chances in life. Mostly everything's been carefully calculated with the usual analytical questions: should I? How much will it cost? What's the worst that can happen?

When’s the Last Time You Went for a Mental Health Checkup?

When’s the Last Time You Went for a Mental Health Checkup?

I've been feeling a little depressed these days and thought I'd utilize some tools I've learned over the years to address it. I realized we can all get affected mentally by changes that happen in our lives. No one is immune to feeling depressed, lonely, anxious or upset, and it's important to recognize even the slightest of these feelings, and address them accordingly.

What Happened When I Was The Strong, Silent Type

What Happened When I Was The Strong, Silent Type

Remember when we used to describe a person who was quiet and didn't show much emotion as the strong, silent type? I don't often hear that phrase anymore to describe a someone, and I'm glad. I mean, how strong is a person who is silent, especially when it comes to their mental health? Isn't that an oxymoron? For generations, it was seen as a positive trait, to be the strong, silent type. You're cool, collected and can withstand internalized pain. Movies stars portrayed this imagery very well, often looking cool and sexy in the movies if they were stoic.

Coming Soon! Book #2 – Living with the Cat, the 9 Biggest Reasons Why Your Life Sucks!

Coming Soon! Book #2 – Living with the Cat, the 9 Biggest Reasons Why Your Life Sucks!

Two years after publishing my best seller Living with the Dragon, Healing 15 000 Days of Abuse and Shame, I'm back with my follow up book that takes a complete 180 degree turn in writing style from my first book. It promises to be wittier, quirkier and with chock full of anecdotes to amuse you. The best part is, you won't even realize you're reading a self-help book. I'm super excited to share this latest project with you and even more excited to make you smile, chuckle and laugh with my stories of mishaps, missteps and bumbling mistakes. (For example, what the heck does Mah-Mah Lee's Rice-Wrap Steam Infusion Spa Treatment got to do with finding a relationship?)

Improving Mental Health through Mental Fitness

Improving Mental Health through Mental Fitness

It's plastered everywhere now. Thanks to the power of social media and improving tolerance, you'd have to be living underneath a rock to not know that having good mental health is equally as important (if not more) than having good physical health. The two are synonymous when we talk about having a well balanced lifestyle.