I’m dying in 25 years…no wait…I have 25 years to Live!

As my collection of friends begin to show their age (with knee problems, high blood pressure, cholesterol challenges, balding), I sometimes think about some of my own aches and pains including my lower back and knees after playing intense games of basketball.

And when I think about recent celebrities passing away at the young age of 75-80 years old, I begin doing the math of the remaining time I might have on this planet.

So at the turn of the New Year, I reached several conclusions. Not resolutions. Conclusions. Continue reading I’m dying in 25 years…no wait…I have 25 years to Live!

Meaningful Conversations about Life

My delightful millennial coworker Stella often teases me at work about my Gen X philosophies and idiosyncrasies. When I was in my 20’s I never would have imagined going to bed at 8pm and that’s one of the many things about me that she banters about. When I explained to her that on my dating profile, I included that I like to have meaningful conversations about life, she exploded in laughter pointing out that it’s far too serious and a turn-off to say that. After her brief 101 on dating, I stood back and said yikes…she’s right! Thus, I elected to save the meaningful conversations about life for a blog or with my close friends only. Continue reading Meaningful Conversations about Life

Why is it Difficult to Make New Connections?

I woke up again in the wee hours of the morning, unable to get a decent night’s sleep. I desperately tried hard to fall back asleep, but restlessness became my blanket and soon my eyes were as wide eyed as my cat’s.

I rolled over and fumbled around in the dark for my phone and saw that it was only 4:03am. Another 57 mins to go before my alarm is supposed to wake me up to go to my bootcamp class at the gym. Unable to find interest in any of my apps on my phone at four in the morning, I for no other reason than boredom began scrolling through my list of phone contacts. Continue reading Why is it Difficult to Make New Connections?

Self-Discovery and the People who Make us Smile

It felt like forever since the last time Alex, Lynnessa, Randy, Rene and I got together. I honestly can’t remember the last time we did. They’re my longtime friends since my University days which means that was over 20 years ago – when we were all skinnier, with a full head of hair and without any gray that we all now try to claim is “fashionable”. In fact, I’ve known Rene since I was in Grade 8 which makes him my longest tenured friend I have. Continue reading “Self-Discovery and the People who Make us Smile”

Conversations from a Coffee Shop: Transforming my Personal Struggles into Success through Writing.

“Why don’t you write a book about your life?” asked my ex-wife as she poured herself a cup of earl grey tea one summer afternoon.

We were sitting on the empty patio at Gallagher’s coffee shop in Port Moody, listening to the sounds of birds chirping in the background of our conversation. Continue reading “Conversations from a Coffee Shop: Transforming my Personal Struggles into Success through Writing.”

A word on Kindness

Kindness begins with how we see ourselves. Much of this depends on how we were treated as children. Unfortunately, childhood abuse survivors often grow up as adults who a have hard time seeing themselves with kindness. We don’t realize the subconscious voices telling us that we’re unlovable, we don’t deserve happiness, we’re ugly or we’re useless. Continue reading A word on Kindness

On Personal Growth and Lifelong Learnings

We are constantly learning new things whether or not we are consciously aware of it. It’s all part of personal growth and development that makes each of us unique. Now in my forties, I’ve realized how much my perspective on life has changed over the years. Once feeling invincible, I now feel a sense of humility. Continue reading On Personal Growth and Lifelong Learnings