I’ve been often told that I analyse things too much. Recently, I stopped to reflect upon the years gone by and paid attention to the details of my life that led me to this exact place I am today.
What if I had chosen a different career path? What if I didn’t start paying attention to my physical health? What if relationships X, Y or Z worked out? What if I didn’t look after my mental health?
Every day we’re given choices on what to do next. If I choose to sit and stay at home, I know that opportunities for anything exciting and new will likely not happen. It’s like expecting to win the $20 million dollar lottery, without actually buying a ticket. If I look outside my window (metaphorically), I can see there’s so many different opportunities presented to me, to bring zest, passion and excitement into my life.
I strongly believe that everything I’ve done in my journey had a purpose to bring me to this space where I’m at today; a life that feels fulfilled and rich. I’m surrounded by an endless list of blessings that I can thank my past for, despite how difficult and painful much of that past has been. From the heartaches, to the tears, to the lonely nights, they all had their reasons, whether to strengthen me or teach me to become someone greater and better than the person I was before.
Practicing abundance thinking has been a valuable tool by my side. If things didn’t work out the way I hoped, instead of brooding and sulking, I’ve learned to see things as opportunities. For example, if a date or relationship doesn’t turn out as hoped, it isn’t the end of the world, is it? I can see the opportunities to practice my social skills, build on my confidence, learn to manage my emotions, and learn to discover who I truly am and what kind of relationship I’m looking for without settling for just anyone.
However, that doesn’t mean I’m void of feeling any emotions. It’s all about balancing those emotions, making sure I stay focused and pursue the other aspects in my life such as, my work, my health, my family, and my goals. My two buddies who I went to Iceland with have recently been talking about a potential trip to Ireland this year. I can’t tell you how excited that feels to do something I truly love, with two dear friends. I’ve learned over the years, it’s not about checking off the bucket lists, crossing another finish line or losing X pounds of body fat. It’s about enjoying the process of doing all that. Am I having fun? Am I living my honest self? Am I exercising my best values towards others?
Everyone and every moment has its purpose, if you choose to see it that way. At least, that’s how I like to look at things. When I assign purpose onto events in my life, it enriches me so much more, because I get to learn something new about myself every time I do.