I recently launched my 3rd Online Course that focuses on healing the inner child. The course is offered on Udemy and is titled Undoing the Effects of Childhood Abuse.
The feeling of discovery can be incredibly liberating and as I was going through my healing journey (and still am), I discovered a wealth of insight listening to what others had to say about their personal experiences. It brought a lot of validation to the pain I endured and that validation mends my wounds bit by bit. Realizing that about 1 in 4 adults have faced some form of childhood abuse is not only a staggering statistic, but it is also fuel for the rest of the world to be aware that abuse and trauma as kids leads to mental health challenges in the future such as depression, anger and anxiety. The minds of kids are still very plastic and when they experience such pain, it forms some very negative beliefs they have about themselves. Kids develop the belief that they are unlovable, unworthy and undeserving of good things. This bleeds into their adult life, making it difficult to be stay in a healthy relationship, develop intimate relationships or feel trust and safety in others. Life takes turns for the worst at times. Alcohol, drugs become addictions and forms of pain management. Emotions are volatile and get triggered by the slightest criticism or feedback. Anger becomes a routine outlet to blast away anything or anyone who seemingly is going against their flow.
Worst of all, adults who experienced childhood abuse, are either unaware or in denial of their negative behaviors which makes it difficult to talk about and seek help.
Thus the cycle continues…
Breaking the chain can be extremely difficult. Facing your past can be painful resulting in denial because the strong uncomfortable feelings can be so daunting. Yet finding acceptance is a necessary passage for the healing journey to begin.
Bit by bit, through counselling, validation, tools you’ll learn from others with similar experiences can help unravel and undo the effects of childhood abuse. It’s about regaining and restoring a piece of yourself that was lost. It’s about seeing yourself from a different angle, one that’s viewed with love and patience.
Undoubtedly, those who experienced childhood abuse will go through a different journey than those who didn’t. It can be sometimes difficult to explain this journey to someone who’s never experienced it before. At the end of the day, it’s your journey and your life to own. And finding peace with your journey opens doors to so many great things that you didn’t even realize before.